Is everyone a pervert?

If you look at sites like FetLife and other kink-related resources, you will realize that the list of kinks and fetishes is quite extensive. Some people like to celebrate their kinkiness by “collecting” and showing-off their affection for unusual activity, while others do their best to steer clear of anything out of the ordinary. However, technically almost everyone has some kink or fetish, and it’s not unusual for someone to not realize they have it. Let’s get technical.

Technically speaking, a kink is any unconventional sexual practice, concept or fantasy. Conventions change from place to place and from culture to culture, but most people’s definition of conventional is “a man inserts his penis into a woman’s vagina in the missionary position until he reaches orgasm and ejaculates”. Obviously, I’m not writing this to suggest that there’s anything not OK with any other form of sex…I’m just trying to set a baseline. This baseline also means that anything else would fall under the definition of either a Fetish, or a kink.

The repercussions can sound a bit weird. For example, there’s hardly any man in modern times that isn’t aroused by looking at breasts. However, breasts are not technically sexual organs, and while modern western society has been celebrating breasts for decades, there are cultures where breasts are not considered to be more attractive than a woman’s elbows or belly-button. All this means that technically speaking, breasts are a sexual fetish, just like being aroused by a woman’s feet.

Another common thing…oral sex. Since oral sex cannot possibly lead to procreation, it is technically considered to be a sexual deviation, and it has been traditionally banned in many religions and societies. In fact, even today, there are quite a few states in the US where oral sex is still explicitly illegal! Same goes for Anal sex. In Alabama, Georgia and several other states, even selling “obscene” items such as Dildos is illegal.

To be clear, I don’t think liking blow jobs or Anal makes someone a pervert, but I do believe that the vast majority of people are kinky to some degree. This is based on results from a lot of statistical data and research available online, as well talking to many people about the topic. A lot of people may not be aware of their kinks, or may not be aware that something they like is a kink (for example, if you are aroused by role-play in which you or your partner wears a specific outfit, such as a maid or a policewoman…that’s a kink). Some people only discover their kinks at a more advanced age, once they get used-to or are less aroused by old-fashioned missionary-position intercourse. I also believe becoming aware of what you like and pursuing it is not only fun and fulfilling, but also healthy, as repression can lead to aggressiveness and depression. Are you interested in finding out your kinks? Here is a list encompassing many of the most common fetishes and kinks around, starting from the tamest to the more extreme:

1. Having sex with two or more people (group sex)
2. Sexual arousal from a specific non-sexual body part such as feet, ears, hair or neck
3. Role playing as a police officer, sex-worker, pizza delivery person
4. Watching others having sex, or being watched
5. Engaging in sexual activity in a place where there’s a major risk of being watched, caught, stopped or humiliated.
6. Watching, wearing or getting watched wearing cloths made out of Latex, leather, vinyl, lycra and other shiny material
7. Watching, wearing or getting watched wearing clothes that are a Uniform for some position of authority or power such as doctor, teacher
8. Watching or performing sexual activity with body parts such as breasts, mouth, anus, feet etc.
9. Ejaculating on various body parts such as the face
10. Wearing opposite-sex cloths, accessories and/or makeup (not part of gender transitioning)
11. Being aroused by specific types of clothing or accessories such as gloves, shoes, boots, heels or glasses used by oneself or partner
12. Watching or performing sexual activity with older partners (MILFs)
13. Watching, listening or performing sexual activity that is very loud, or results in very loud climax, or the opposite (very quiet and repressed climax)
14. Watching or performing anal or vaginal penetration of unusual or very large objects, such as vegetables or bottles
15. Watching, performing, causing or forcing a woman to release fluid during sex (“Female ejaculation”)
16. Watching or performing sexual activity with machines or devices that are very fast and powerful (fucking machines, Sybian) and/or irresistible.
17. Tickling or getting tickled and other physical sensations that aren’t sexual or painful
18. Inflicting/receiving pain via canes, sticks, whips, crops, floggers and other tools
19. Choking or getting choked in order to intensify orgasms
20. Inflicting/receiving spanking as part of intercourse or not
21. Inflicting/receiving pain specifically to the genitals (CBT)
22. Inflicting/receiving pain by biting (esp. nipples, clitoris, neck)
23. Tying up or getting tied up in a way that restricts movement or other physical constraints such as blindfolds, mouth-gags
24. Placing someone or being placed in a device that restricts movement, such as a cage, chamber or chair with straps
25. Sex with exceptionally obese people (Chubby Chasers)
26. Urinating on someone, or getting urinated on (Golden showers)
27. Humiliating or getting humiliated privately or publicly by someone else
28. Arousing someone or getting aroused close to orgasm, but prevented from climaxing (orgasm denial), having the person beg for release, forcing the person to climax against their will.
29. Climaxing or making another climax in a way that avoids continued stimulation during the orgasm (“ruined orgasm”)
30. Ejaculating or being forced to ejaculate large amounts of semen (milking)
31. Watching, giving or receiving manual stimulation to a man’s prostate
32. Getting Tattoos or tattooing another person
33. Piercing the skin of someone, or getting pierced by someone, for placement of rings or other jewelry
34. Inserting needles or having needles inserted into a person’s skin or body
35. Performing or undergoing invasive and/or painful medical procedures such as urinary catheter insertion, rectal exam or Enema
36. Performing or undergoing activity that permanently modified the skin or body (including scarring)
37. Watching others having sex with your partner (cuckold)
38. Watching your partner suffering and/or being humiliated (choking, gagging, screaming in pain)
39. Acting out a scenario of caring for another person pretending to be a child or baby, or being cared for (age play)
40. Acting out a scene of something that frightens you or your partner immensely (for example, with guns, knives or fire)
41. Choking or getting choked as part of a role play
42. Pretending to be an animal, such as dog, fox, cat or horse, or pretending to “train” someone who is acting out that role
43. Watching body parts that are extremely exaggerated in size (breasts, buttocks, penis, testes) or being enlarged to extreme size
44. Watching or performing extreme sexual penetration of organs such as the urethra or the nipples
45. Watching or performing activity that results in bleeding (blood play)
46. Watching a sexual partner smoke or use tobacco products and narcotics, or being forced to use them
47. Watching a sexual partner play with balloons (inflate them, sit on them, pop them)

So, to answer the question I posted in the headline…I personally DO believe that almost everyone is Kinky. My guess is that at least 95% of people have some kink or another, though most may not be aware of it, or may not be aware that the thing that arouses them is a kink. If you are one, I hope to see you on FetLife, or at a future CSPC event. If unsure, check out the following list…maybe your kink is one I haven’t covered.